Is 50 the new 30 When It Come To Sex … or Not? Enter Dr. Liu….
Check, out writer, director, producer & screenwriter Tracey Jackson’s Fifty@Fifty video interview with Dr. Ed Liu! Discussing sex at 50 may be harder than we thought – is it such a sensitive subject that even your girlfriends are lying to you? Ms. Jackson explores the mysteries of aging sex lives and Dr. Liu’s three most important pieces of advice for women in midlife! Is 50 the new 30 sexually, or not?
Thoughts? We’d love to hear ‘em!
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Every woman is different. A married woman who has been with the same man for 30 years is probably not having a lot of sex. However, a women in her 50′s who is single or especially newly single can be a raging nymphomaniac. Why? Because the guy she had been married to never fulfilled her sexual desires. Now that could be because he was a workaholic or whatever. But the fact remains, if she is newly single, she has found herself to be sexually liberated.
this guy is so very wrong. I hope women don’t listen to this so called woman’s doctor and think its true. I had a hysterectomy 6 years ago – I am not dry, I am horny and I have multiple orgasms. I do NOT take anything, hormones or whatever. Only medication I take is meloxicam for arthritis. I just can’t believe the BS coming from this mans mouth. What a joke. Plus — my partner is 61! He is better them man I had in my 20s and no – he does not take viagra~!~ This really makes me angry.
As a relatively recently widowed (two years ago) 52 years old who was married to my husband 26 years when he died, I agree that have been liberated. I loved my husband, who I also grew up with, but I didn’t have alot of experience dating prior to getting married and he was the only one I’d been with. I’ve been involved with a man (who also lost his wife after 28 years of marriage), and we both are having a great time–in and out of bed. It’s like I’ve discovered a new playground and a new identity…a new me and I’m having the best time of my life!
This is totally ridiculous. All people are not the same, even 50 year old women are not the same. I’m 65 and I feel the same as I did when I was in my 30′s. All it takes is a man that can keep up with me and in my age range, that takes a man who is very strong and uses Viagra. I have plenty of my own lubrication and it doesn’t take much to make me horny either.
I didn’t even listen but surmised he said women have issues with sex after 50, whatever. Not true. My ex tried to say that women stop wanting sex when they get older, uh no! I told him that doesn’t happen, what may happen is that husband has inflicted so much damage to the marriage that their wife doesn’t want sex with them. With the right partner, not a problem.
Kay – you got it right about the husband being the reason for not wanting the sex! After years of knocking you down emotionally or even making you feel like you aren’t sexy looking – what do they expect?? Ladies – LEAVE! There is a world out here that is everything you make it. And yes, the grass is greener!
This “woman’s”doctor is so wrong! His perception is probably what it is because he sees only women coming to him that have problems all day! I have been married five years to my second husband and am having the best sex of my life! (we are ages 52 and 61)) I think so much depends on the emotional relationship you have and also your physical health. His answer is to take medicine-what about exercising and eating healthy? The women who have posted here are right on target-don’t listen to this guy! And, for the record, I don’t compare with my girlfriends-too much information!!!
That’s a great point, Carol! He is seeing women with concerns and questions. It’s also true that the physical, emotional and spiritual connections you have play a huge part in this! And I also agree with you – “comparing notes” is like playing that childhood game “gossip”…
I’m glad he’s not my Gyn! I don’t think he really talks to his patients; only talks “at” them.
I’m 56 and didn’t really start enjoying sex until I was 47. Dryness? Why would a woman take hormones for dryness instead of just using a lubricant? I don’t know any women who feel “old and ugly” and my friends and I don’t discuss our sexual frequencies. Isn’t that something that boys do?
As a man I have to agree with you Carol. I was married 16 yrs of which the last 10 were lousy sexually. We were in our 40s. Sex once per month.
I think everything depends on a woman’s emotions in marriage. Unfortunately, emotions and feelings are in flux with most women. So, they lose interest in sex with their husbands.
I divorced because after “saving” myself, I was not going to put up with this nonsense. I was not abusive, controlling etc. I NEVER married for a woman to do a damn thing for me. I did may own cooking before marriage and afterwards. I picked up my own laundry….I helped with the dishes and took paternity leave when our son was born. My wife thought I should jump through hoops for sex. Forget it. Her old “booty call” partners did not have to do so. So, why should I as her husband.
Now, I have great sex with women my age, 50, as well as younger women. I prefer younger because they are more into sex than older women. Even dated a 62 yr old woman that had a healthy sex drive.
There are many of us women in our 50′s who have become single again and are exploring their sexuality in ways they didn’t even consider doing when they were younger. It’s liberating to be of an age when you don’t care as much what others think and do what you want to do without concern of being labeled. We have a new appreciation for our bodies and what they can do and how they can make us feel (even if we are not in the ideal physical shape). Men of all ages enjoy us because we aren’t as emotionally needy as younger women and don’t have an agenda.
well, look at HIM! would YOU want to do this guy? seriously, he’s way off target! i hate stupid male doctors.
My parents are 60 and 61. They have been married for 38 years now. They have sex often and because they BOTH want to. Yay for them!!!!
Yay is right…good for them!!!
I’m in my late 40′s and my sex drive is incredible. This guy is completely off base and I agree, I hope women don’t listen to him!
Add another woman who has zero issues with having good sex (other than no partner, atm- lol)… At 50, I have not had a decrease in desire- & actually, I think the opposite is true. I agree with most that’s been said- absolutely the killer of sex for women is a sh*tty relationship. There’s no one I know of who doesn’t like sex, they just don’t have a partner that makes them want it. I sometimes wonder if it’s a matter of people (not only women) not speaking up about things they’d like to try, but are too embarrassed to ask? Actually, I know this is true, inhibition sort of relegates you to vanilla sex that gets old when the “newness” ends…Not saying it’s always true, but sometimes it is…
Now on to Terence:
“I did my own cooking before marriage and afterwards. I picked up my own laundry….I helped with the dishes and took paternity leave when our son was born.”
These are things you OUGHT to do, they are not sacrifices. I don’t know why men say these things as if it’s a wonderful & marvelous gesture on their part? Good grief!
I just found this site and have enjoyed reading everyone’s opinions but the one from Terence needs to be addressed. I would like to hear your ex-wife’s side of the story. I’m willing to bet it’s much different from yours. My husband is very arrogant and has himself so far up on a pedestal that he cannot admit any wrongdoing. But believe me, he has plenty to be ashamed of but if I didn’t have sex with him, it would be all my fault. Everything else is always my fault, too.